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Does true love really exist? If it does, how can one find true love? These questions have bothered and bugged the mind of many singles. If you are among those singles asking these questions, this post is written just for you. I am going to be very honest with you and realistic in this post. Yes without any controversy, true love exists but it can only be found in God. The Bible says,
So it is clear from the Scriptures that only God can give you the true love of your life. My dear lady, you can't find true love by dressing like a harlot and posting your nude pictures online. Men who see your naked body for free can only use you and dump you like tissue paper. They won't love you for that. You can't find true love by opening your legs for men who don't even know the road that leads to your father's house. Sex before marriage only makes you a cheap material, not a lovable diva. You won't find true love if you continue to lie to men and deceive them in the name of love because whatever anyone sows, that's what he /she will reap. If you sow fake love, you will surely reap fake love now or later except you repent. You can't find true love if you think you can find it by your own strength and power. Your beauty, good shape, money, certificates and class can only attract a relationship to you but they cannot give you true love. Haven't you seen beautiful and rich ladies having heart breaks?
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. James 1:17
Men you can't find true love if you continue to do testing and error with every lady who comes on your way. If you think that the best way to know a woman who loves you is when she opens her legs for you, you will be fooling yourself. If sex is the only proof of love, harlots won't be giving sex to men they don't even know, let alone loving them. Bro, you can buy almost everything in this world with money, but you cannot buy true love with money. Your money means nothing to a woman if your character is questionable and your heart is not with her.
I want to assure you that true love is real. And there is that special man and woman that God has reserved for you who will love you and care for you from the heart. Just like other treasures of the earth, true love is not impossible to find and it is not too cheap to find. Crude oil for instance, is not found on the ground surface. You have to dig several miles deep into the ground to find it. Gold and silver are not littered in the street. They are hidden and buried beneath the earth's surface. Everything of value in this world comes with a price tag. A memorable experience awaits you. Please read every line carefully to the end. Below are 12 Ways to Find True Love:
1. Be Born again and live by example.
Except one is born again God cannot hand over His precious son or daughter to him for Marriage. You can't be a child of the devil and expect to marry a child of God. Common sense will tell you that it doesn't make sense. You need to be a child of God to qualify to receive a true lover given to you from heaven. Salvation is the best miracle because it doesn't only take you to heaven, it determines what happens to you here on the earth. If you are looking for Ways to find true love, the first thing you must do is to receive Christ as your Lord and personal saviour then you will be on your way to finding the true love of your life, that special life partner, tailor made by heaven just for you.
2. Decide from the beginning that what you want is true love and don't compromise your decision no matter what happens .
One of the Ways to find true love is to know what you want and be determined about it. If you have not made up your mind for true love, you will be tempted to accept anything that comes along the line when true love is not forth coming. Your decision will determine your reaction and action which invariably defines your situation. Make a decision on what you really want and stand by it.
3. Acquire relevant knowledge and wisdom about love by reading the Bible and other good books on love, relationship and marriage.
Through knowledge the Just is delivered into their inheritance in Christ. Go for knowledge if you want to find true love, especially knowledge in the area of love, relationship and marriage. God says my people perish for lack of knowledge (Hosea 4:6). Anything you don't know can limit you. Where your knowledge ends, that's where your destiny ends. What you know, you attract, what you don't know, you repel. Knowledge is power, please go for it.
4. Develop godly character.
Your character is either your greatest asset in your love adventure or your worst liability. Your charisma or talents can attract a relationship to you, but only your character can keep it and turn it into a lifetime love. It is self-affliction to have a beautiful face and figure eight body with a repugnant character. What makes a real man is not long beards but good character. Let me tell you the truth, character is not a Christmas or birthday gift. No one has the gift of character. It is a responsibility. You have to cultivate it, nurture it and develop any godly character and virtue you desire. Good news is that if you are born again, you already have the seed of God in you, all you need is to work on yourself. Do people tell you that you are a very proud and arrogant person? Please don't take it for an insult. Work on it. Do you have hot Temper? Work on it. Do you find it difficult to forgive? Work on it. If there is a will to change, there is always a way to change. Change is possible but only to those who are willing to change.
5. Be in the company of godly friends.
Your location determines your allocation. Where you are sometimes will determine the kind of people you will meet. Don't be found in the gang of criminals, thieves, harlots, fraudsters etc. Surround yourself with godly friends, it will surprise you to know that it was not from a far country that God brought Eve to Adam. It was from his ribs, by his side. The love you are looking for is not too far from you. Be in the company of godly friends if you want to find true love.
6. Prayer-By strength shall no man prevail.
There is no short cut or magic for finding True Love. If you want to find true love, pray to God to give you one and He will give you. Prayer can move mountains. Sometimes there are forces of darkness that block people's efforts from finding true love. Wickedness is real, witchcraft is real but more real is our victory in Christ Jesus. There are families you will visit and you will see beautiful ladies who have character and capacity yet no man wants to marry them. It's not ordinary. The devil can swallow down people's marriage and chain them for life except God intervenes. That's where prayer comes in. You need spiritual warfare to clear off Satanic barriers and obstacles on the path of your love life and marriage. Don't rely on the arm of the flesh. For by strength shall no man prevail. There are many unreasonable things people do these days in a bid to finding the love of their life but end up in frustration and regret. One of the Ways to Find True Love that is most reliable and trustworthy is prayer.
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7. Throw away every self desperation, worry and wait patiently on God.
God keeps the best for the last. It takes alot of patience and confidence in God to find true love. When you are in a haste to marry quick, you may meet the devil's son or daughter. That will not be your portion in Jesus name. He that believes should not make haste. Don't be in a hurry, good men and wonderful women will never finish. Forget about who is getting married while you are not. Forget about what anyone is saying to put fire in your tail. Forget about peer pressure. Relax your mind and wait on God. Those who wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up on wings like Eagles. By the time God shows up for you, it will be a lasting testimony. Be patient with God.
8. Don't be afraid to love again .
After several disappointments and heart breaks in the past, it is naturally possible for anyone to hide in his shell. But if you want to find true love, you must keep searching for it. You must not give up.
Winners never quit and quitters never win. You must continue. Keep searching for true love and keep believing in love. Remain optimistic and positive. Soonest your true love will meet you by surprise.
9. Be Yourself, don't try to impress people.
One thing about love is that it has eyes for the original. Someone who truly loves you doesn't care if you have a car, house, money or university degree. What true love cares about is original. Be yourself. Be proud of your colour, height, stature, and identity. Don't borrow television and keep in your house to impress the lady when you don't have anyone. Don't borrow your friend's car to visit her when you don't even have a bicycle. Be yourself. Remember success and prosperity is first of all in the mind. Walk like a billionaire even when you have no dime in your pocket. Any woman who can't see your future now that you have nothing, is not worthy to be your true lover. Don't impress people and depress yourself.
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10. To find true love, find your purpose first.
Your purpose determines your partner. Until you discover yourself first, you cannot find your true love. Who are you? What are you on earth to do? What is God's assignment for your life? Find it first and love will come. A man must have a work first before he looks for a wife. You need to find purpose before pleasure. Don't be looking for someone else when you haven't found yourself. No one is more frustrated than the fellow who doesn't know his or her purpose.
11. Be Kind and good to people.
Wicked and hard hearted people never find true love. But when you are a kind, good, cheerful and nice person, you will also meet someone who is like you. Because like attracts like. Beersheba found favour in the sight of King David because of her kindness to David's men. Rebecca became attractive in the sight of Abraham's servant who went to get a wife for Isaac because of her kindness. It is human to be kind, wickedness and hard-heartedness can frustrate all your efforts to find true love.
12. Follow the leading of the Holy Spirit.
There is no specific place where you can find your true love. Your true love can meet you anywhere, anytime, anyday. While it is good to look for your true love in the house of God but you must know that not every woman or man in church is a child of God. Demons also come to church with human clothings. Don't be myopic about this. Just be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit. Many people have found their true love on Facebook, instagram etc and they are happily married till today. But not everyone you see online is a human being. Others are scams and robots. Be wise. Be open and follow biblical principles of purity, righteousness and order. These are the authentic ways to find true love from biblical perspective.
Bonus : Don't be too quick to write off anyone due to his or her mistake at the moment. Many people have missed their true love through that way. Your true love is not an Angel, he/she is a human being with flesh and blood and therefore liable to errors. You must learn to give people benefit of doubt and second chance to improve.
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